How did/do you manage the demands of (young) children and writing and did this evolve as your boys became older? You assume that when your children enter school you will have a lot more time, but that often doesn't happen. When your children were in pre-school did you have a child care arrangement or family close by? Alternatively did you only write in the evenings?
When my guys were little, I committed to three writing sessions a week. Some would literally last ten minutes, others an hour or two. For several years I had a weekly babysitter who watched them while I dashed to the coffee shop to get some writing in. As you can imagine, my writing happened in fits and starts for quite some time, and I had to decide I was okay with that.
YA author Kiersten White recently posted about mothering and writing. She’s able to do much more than I ever could. That’s okay, too.
Now that my boys are in school, I do have more time. I think going back to teaching for those first two years they both were in school showed me how to squeeze more out of my day, but also showed me I want to live a less hectic, more balanced life. For me, it’s all about sustaining a career long term while working realistically within the season of life I’m facing.
What is your schedule like now that you are published? Is it easier? Perhaps being published only gives you a different set of obstacles? There is a pressure to keep performing well and meeting deadlines as it is such a privilege to be published, especially in these times of economic difficulties and book-buying habits are changing.
Honestly, it is easier now that I’m published. It’s beneficial to have deadlines my family is aware of and work I can truly call a job. In those pre-publication/apprenticeship years, my family supported my pursuit of publication but didn’t always understand the process. Twelve years of rejection starts to look like insanity even to the most devoted of spouses. I remember my husband asking a few years back, “Does this make you happy?” Right or wrong, there’s a level of legitimacy that comes from a book deal.
Once published, there is a one-book-a-year expectation/aspiration that can both invigorate and terrify (at least in my experience). The wonderful thing about the children’s market during this economic downturn is sales in this market continue to be strong. The theory is that while before the downturn parents would buy a book for their children and themselves, now those parents are forgoing their own books but still buying for their children. Add to this the really strong sales of several YA titles these last few years, and things look rather positive. Unfortunately, a number of established editors lost their jobs as publishing houses streamlined (many have re-invented themselves as agents), and houses are taking on fewer books as a precautionary measure, but ultimately, the state of the children’s market is good.
Ok, how about guilt? Most mothers suffer from this. Did you have any guilt about the time you spent writing? It seems to be a common feeling amongst female writers that they love their time spent writing so much that it makes them feel bad for their family.
There’s always guilt about mothering, isn’t there? Absolutely I’ve experienced writing-related guilt. I also think, though, that it has been incredibly beneficial for my boys to see me set high goals and not bow in the face of rejection. It’s also good for them to know I have “assignments” just as they do.
I won’t lie: the fact that they’re in school and are more free to entertain themselves during summer vacation takes a lot of pressure off. Still, I need to remember to be present when I’m with them. It’s easy to keep living in my head and not fully engage my family when I’m away from writing. It’s something, I think, I’ll always struggle with.
Briefly describe your journey as a writer before and after children.
I started writing seriously in 1998 while teaching full time. My first boy was born in 2001, the second in 2003. Until they both were in school, I aimed for the three-times-a-week goal. It was reasonable, and any work beyond that felt like a bonus. Once they both were in school, I jumped into writing full time. Just a few months into the year, a teacher at their school abruptly left, and the principal asked me to take her job. It was in my exact areas of certification. As difficult as it was to write, teach, and mother, I loved those years. Writing-wise, I returned to the schedule I kept while teaching pre-children: drafting in the summer and revising during the school year (I had little creativity to work with by the end of the day). The contact with real, live children was great as far as inspiration went.
I left teaching (for the second time) after two years without any publishing leads but with the conviction it was time to try writing full time. Four months later, I signed with an agent. MAY B. was on submission for four months and sold at auction.
What is in the pipeline for you?
I have a picture book called OVER IN THE WETLANDS coming out in 2014 (also with Schwartz and Wade / Random House Children’s Books). It’s loosely based on the traditional rhyme, “Over in the Meadow,” and follows the animals of the Louisiana coast as they prepare for and withstand a hurricane.
I’m also working on a new historical verse novel and am toying with reviving some years-old manuscripts (though I’m not sure they’re publication worthy).
Finally, can you give one piece of advice on any aspect of writing that you think would be helpful to others.
Plow to the end of the row. I heard this NPR interview in 2004. It has sustained me for years.
Thanks for the opportunity, ladies!
Thanks to you for sharing your experiences! Carrie has a fantastic website and you can visit her at: http://www.carolinestarrrose.com/Caroline_Starr_Rose/Home.html